Do This When You Need Productive Energy

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A few weeks ago, Moe told me he was feeling down, unmotivated and overall just “blah”. Then I got covid and after I recovered, I felt the same way. The odd thing was that I couldn’t pinpoint exactly why I felt this way, just as he couldn’t either. 

Then I came across an article talking about the clutter in your space and the reasons you need to clean it out. Bingo! As I looked around my house, the kitchen table had become a catch-all, the baby’s toys were everywhere, I had papers and books piled on our dresser dating back to God knows when. My house is clean, but it’s not always picked up. Just being real with you here!

All the piles and junk had mentally taken over me and I’d had it. See, what happens when we let our space- work or home- get this way is, the clutter becomes distracting. We see it. We know it needs to be taken care of but we have 20 other things on our brain so that becomes a “I’ll get to that later”. Later never comes but you keep passing the piles and reminding yourself of the never ending to do list in your head.

For some, it hinders creativity. The mental overwhelm of what needs to be done can be stifling. Meanwhile, giving yourself an organized, clean space promotes motivation, creativity, and inspiration. In my case, this was absolutely true! More on that in a second.

In a recent study done by the National Association of Professional Organizers, being organized was found to give people an extra 60 minutes a day! Just because they were able to find what they needed! WHAT?! An extra hour a day? Imagine what we could do! Workout, self-care, spend more time with our families, sleep, clear more clutter…haha, kidding…sort of. 

Lastly, it was found that clutter actually adds more stress to your life. You’re looking at all these piles and the overwhelm of where to start takes over, so instead of just starting anywhere, you put it off and don’t do it at all. Then the vicious cycle starts again. 

What I found when I started clearing piles is that it was like a domino effect. I started with the kitchen table. That lead to a few areas in our dining room, then to my bedroom and our dresser. Then to our closet and before I knew it, I was cleaning out from under the fridge and scrubbing the inside of the microwave! All of this happened while Moe was on a 4 day work trip and when he came home, he was shocked! He kept saying “Wow! This feels so much better!” Additionally, I found the creativity and inspiration to create two more courses! (Watch for those in the next few weeks!) 

So, the next time you feel uninspired, stressed, out of creativity, overwhelmed and “blah” start with your space. Throw things away, organize, store, repaint- whatever you have to do to make your space feel clean and refreshed. It will refresh your mind too! 

XOXO,

Kameran

P.S- Don’t forget that Back to Basics doors are closing this Thursday! If this “blah” feeling is something that’s taken over and you’re needing help finding more of this inspiration and motivation in other areas of your life too- B2B is definitely for you! 

P.P.S- The 31 Day Marriage challenge starts FRIDAY! Have you signed up? This challenge is so incredible! A devotional, a short 5 minute audio lesson, a connecting question and a challenge emailed right to you every single day! These connecting questions are things like “What areas of your relationship have you not been fulfilling your purpose?” and “How is doubt affecting your relationship?” These are NOT your typical “Bring flowers home” challenge questions. 

New Season, New Habits

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Cooler temps, changing leaves and pumpkins are all around! With the seasons changing, this is not only the perfect weather for getting outside, enjoying family and pumpkin spice everything, it’s also the best time to sit down and evaluate some of the habits you’ve picked up in your marriage. 

People don’t get divorced and say “I know exactly how we got here!” Usually, it’s more like “I don’t know how we ended up here.” I do. Habits. The small day to day habits that started and snowballed. 

Habits like picking up your phone in the evenings instead of intentionally connecting. Putting off adult time or date night because you’re too tired or too busy. Putting the kids and their events above your marriage. 

The way to fix or prevent this from happening is simple. With the turn of the seasons, sit down one afternoon or date night and have a conversation. Be open and honest with each other. 

1. What is your vision? 
Post-pandemic, last quarter of 2021, what is the vision for your life, your family, your career? Think big picture here. What do you need to focus more of to really propel forward? Is it more time as a family? Would cutting some of the extras from your budget to become more financially secure help? How about getting a coach to help your marriage and provide a more stable home life? Do you need a community or a different circle of influence? Would a mindset shift be the ticket? 

Hear each other out. If you both have different ideas of what would help, can you combine efforts to do both? As this is a big picture vision, it’s important to think broad here. Don’t try to take on too many smaller tasks. You’ll end up overwhelmed and the small tasks won’t be seen through. Small and simple is best here.

2. Boundaries
If you’ve followed me for any amount of time, I’m sure I sound like a broken record with this one. However, a breakdown in a marriage/family happens because of a lack of boundaries. What do you need to say no to? What do you need to set limits on in this season moving forward? When you visualize where you want your marriage and family to go, what isn’t there? Sometimes moving forward means leaving “the old” behind. 

3. Roles
As you’re reflecting on the vision and the boundaries, also think about what’s working and what isn’t. What roles do you play each day? What hats do you wear? Are these roles adding to your life or your stress? I often have couples do an exercise called work | rest. Think about all the things you do daily, weekly, monthly, quarterly, and yearly. Make a list of those according to whether they are work (energy taking) or rest (energy giving) for you. Now compare that list with your spouse. What is on their work list that’s rest for you? Can you take that chore now? What is rest for them that’s work for you? Switch things up as necessary. For example, bedtime routines are work for me but rest for my husband. When possible, that’s a role that he takes on to give me a break. What roles can you add, take away or change to give everyone more energy, stability, and happiness in the home? 

I realize this doesn’t sound super sexy but having a conversation around these three topics will certainly lead to more sexy time and give you the energy you’ve been looking for! Running a home and a successful marriage is a lot like running a business. To be successful, hard conversations need to be had, revamping what isn’t working and ramping up what is takes reflection, effort and mindfulness. 

As always, if you need help with these topics, I have space available for pop-up sessions and the back to basics program covers a lot of this as well. There are a couple spaces left in that program too! Cheers to your marriage!

Your coach, 

Kameran