Think back to January 1, 2021. Did you make the New Years Resolution to have a better marriage? Now you’re almost through October and as you look back, not much has changed? 

It’s not too late! You still have 71 days left in the year! That’s a lot of time to make a BIG difference! 

When you look at the big changes over time, they never happened with one big event anyway. It started with a few small habits, a few tweaks and changes here and there and after time, voila! HUGE CHANGE! 

Start with things you’re already doing.
You already pack your spouse’s lunch- include a note of appreciation. When you watch TV together at night- hold their hand or share a blanket.  Eating dinner is a given- help them clean up afterward. When you wake up in the morning, make a point to say good morning before reaching for your phone. Put your phone background as a picture of the two of you together so when you reach for your phone 86 times a day like every other average American (yes, that is a real statistic), you’ll see their face and remember to send a nice text, communicate the time you’re coming home or just feel some sense of appreciation for being their partner in life. 

Habits are often thought to be a verb- something you do. They’re not. The word habit is actually a noun which means it has to be created. It needs to be attached to something you’re already doing so it’s easier to do and not forget. It’s also something that if done consistently, over time makes a big impact! 

Habits are the reason for a relationship’s downfall and for a relationship being strong! When you have poor habits that prioritize your kids, your job, the television, social media, etc. You aren’t prioritizing your marriage. So the marriage breaks down. What you put intentional effort into is what will become stronger over time. Just like muscle groups. When you work it out intentional effort, it gets stronger. 

What habits will you be implementing? I’d love to know! Comment below!

 Your coach, 

Kameran