I was just…
I just wanted to say…
Can we just…
This week, I have a super simple challenge for you! Let me know how it goes!
Back in 2018, I read an article that talked about the top 9 words we say that make us look weak. I started noticing how often I used these words. Just was probably my most frequently used word followed by a close second…sorry.
Ugh. Thinking back to that, it makes me want to throw up. But I guess that’s growth right? Striving to be a better version of yourself all the time? I definitely have grown in the last 2 years and I’m sure you have too!
Just, as you’ll read in the article makes it sound like you’re wasting everyone’s time, like what you need or what you’re doing isn’t important enough or worthy enough to take time.
Have you ever heard someone who apologizes all the time? Someone bumps into them, “Oops, sorry”. Sorry for what? Existing? Sorry for being late, Sorry my kid is sick, Sorry I was in the shower when you called…all the time with the sorry. It’s more than kind of annoying and makes them look weak, right? That’s why it’s number two on this list but in listening to myself say “just” all the time, I realized that I was that person but a double whammy with sorry too! Whew!
So what happened when I became cognizant of it?
I stopped using it so much. My messages became stronger, my writing flowed more. Most of all, I became so much more confident! I started believing in myself because dad-gum-it! I’m NOT a waste of time and neither are my needs, wants and words.
Today, as you’re in conversation with others, be mindful of the words you’re using and how you feel when you use them. Did you say just? Do you feel weaker now having said it? If you say that sentence again, do you feel more powerful? Does the sentence have more meaning?
Try this little social experiment and remember to let me know how it goes!