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The Last 90 Days of 2021!

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Each quarter when I start a round of Back to Basics, I get really excited because as I’m coaching the group, I’m also participating in the lessons with my students. One of the things that we start with is goals. Where do we want to be in 90 days?

This last quarter hits a little differently for me. It’s a season that personally, I’m more excited for than I have been in about two years. As I was thinking about my goals for this last quarter, I kept thinking about what I really want to focus on. What would increase my success this quarter not only as a coach but as a wife, a mother and all the other hats I wear? 

For most of 2020, I was pregnant so while my health was a priority, it was more about my son and his health. I ate to give the baby the adequate nutrition he needed. He was born in November of last year and I’ve spent the last 11 months breastfeeding so all my nutrition has still been about him. I didn’t drink alcohol, didn’t take certain supplements or essential oils, avoided or increased certain foods. But now, he’s weaned himself and I finally feel like I have my body back to myself!! In all transparency, there’s a ridiculous amount of guilt and mind games that go with that as well that I don’t think is talked about near enough but maybe another day we’ll get into that.

I decided my focus is going to be on my health, for no other reason than it just being for me and I couldn’t be more excited about it! I have set my nightly regiment to include a concoction of oils that I use as a moisturizer to help with aging:
1 oz. roller bottle
5 drops frankincense
5 drops lavender
3 drops geranium
2 drops rose or rose hip oil
Fill the rest of the way with argan oil or grapeseed oil. 

I use the argan oil in the winter when my skin is a lot more dry, grapeseed for the months when I need something a little lighter. 

Put the roller filament on top and roll a generous amount on your face and decollete area. I like to use a jade roller or rose quartz roller over these areas as well. 

Before I was pregnant, I used to do a castor oil pack on my liver a couple times a week. I wouldn’t recommend doing this unless you’ve worked it out with a naturopathic dr. If you need one, I would absolutely recommend mine! She is the smartest person I’ve ever met and the most gifted doctor!! You can find her here. The castor oil packs on my liver gave me energy, helped my body detox better and improved my overall liver health! 

I drank tea every night before bed. I did HIIT workouts 3-4 times a week. Occassionally, I boxed. These are the things that I have missed so dearly and can’t wait to get back to. I can’t wait to see how I can transform with my students in the next 6 weeks! 

Of course, I have goals in the areas of spirituality, family and friends, career and fun as well but the important thing to remember when you’re setting your 90 day goals is that your main goal, the one that drives all others. It’s the one that should help set you up for success in all other areas of life. 

What’s your goal for the last 90 days of 2021? How are you going to set yourself up for success so you’re not looking back in October of 2022 saying “Man, I sure wish I would’ve started a year ago.”? 

XOXO,

Kameran

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  • Bottling things up until you explode
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  • Make decisions impulsively
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New Season, New Habits

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Cooler temps, changing leaves and pumpkins are all around! With the seasons changing, this is not only the perfect weather for getting outside, enjoying family and pumpkin spice everything, it’s also the best time to sit down and evaluate some of the habits you’ve picked up in your marriage. 

People don’t get divorced and say “I know exactly how we got here!” Usually, it’s more like “I don’t know how we ended up here.” I do. Habits. The small day to day habits that started and snowballed. 

Habits like picking up your phone in the evenings instead of intentionally connecting. Putting off adult time or date night because you’re too tired or too busy. Putting the kids and their events above your marriage. 

The way to fix or prevent this from happening is simple. With the turn of the seasons, sit down one afternoon or date night and have a conversation. Be open and honest with each other. 

1. What is your vision? 
Post-pandemic, last quarter of 2021, what is the vision for your life, your family, your career? Think big picture here. What do you need to focus more of to really propel forward? Is it more time as a family? Would cutting some of the extras from your budget to become more financially secure help? How about getting a coach to help your marriage and provide a more stable home life? Do you need a community or a different circle of influence? Would a mindset shift be the ticket? 

Hear each other out. If you both have different ideas of what would help, can you combine efforts to do both? As this is a big picture vision, it’s important to think broad here. Don’t try to take on too many smaller tasks. You’ll end up overwhelmed and the small tasks won’t be seen through. Small and simple is best here.

2. Boundaries
If you’ve followed me for any amount of time, I’m sure I sound like a broken record with this one. However, a breakdown in a marriage/family happens because of a lack of boundaries. What do you need to say no to? What do you need to set limits on in this season moving forward? When you visualize where you want your marriage and family to go, what isn’t there? Sometimes moving forward means leaving “the old” behind. 

3. Roles
As you’re reflecting on the vision and the boundaries, also think about what’s working and what isn’t. What roles do you play each day? What hats do you wear? Are these roles adding to your life or your stress? I often have couples do an exercise called work | rest. Think about all the things you do daily, weekly, monthly, quarterly, and yearly. Make a list of those according to whether they are work (energy taking) or rest (energy giving) for you. Now compare that list with your spouse. What is on their work list that’s rest for you? Can you take that chore now? What is rest for them that’s work for you? Switch things up as necessary. For example, bedtime routines are work for me but rest for my husband. When possible, that’s a role that he takes on to give me a break. What roles can you add, take away or change to give everyone more energy, stability, and happiness in the home? 

I realize this doesn’t sound super sexy but having a conversation around these three topics will certainly lead to more sexy time and give you the energy you’ve been looking for! Running a home and a successful marriage is a lot like running a business. To be successful, hard conversations need to be had, revamping what isn’t working and ramping up what is takes reflection, effort and mindfulness. 

As always, if you need help with these topics, I have space available for pop-up sessions and the back to basics program covers a lot of this as well. There are a couple spaces left in that program too! Cheers to your marriage!

Your coach, 

Kameran