Ever notice some cultures have more of a laid back culture than Americans? They take time for naps, coffee breaks, social gatherings and time with family is above work. They work to live while Americans live to work. We subscribe to what is called urgency culture and it’s literally killing us in the form of stress. Urgency culture looks like:

Feeling like you have to text back right away or that others must text you back immediately.
Feeling like others must have a comment, opinion or response about a topic right away.
Saying things like “I’m too old for this/that” or “I’m running out of time.”
Seeing age or time limits as a concrete belief.
Expecting immediate results/solutions or quick fixes (fad-diets anyone?)
Feeling like people have to do things as soon as you ask them to.
Feeling like you have to say yes to everything people ask of you.

How many of these can you relate to?

Are you living in an urgency culture?

It’s very possible that if you said yes, this is the source of a lot of your stress! By continuing to live this way your health deteriorates, the stress increases, you project your expectations onto others in an unhealthy way. Your expectations may be too high so then you become judgy and resentful. They resent you for doing so and a wedge is formed in the relationship. You may miss out on dreams, goals and careers that would’ve made you happy all because you believed your age played a key role. So how do you stop?

Learn to say NO. It’s a complete sentence and requires no explanation.
Give others time.
Know what you can and cannot control. Accept it for what it is.
If you need an answer right away, call- don’t text.
Plan ahead.
Recognize that your actions, thoughts and communication have an effect on others but give them and yourself space to do what is healthy.
Recognize that what is healthy for others may not be healthy for you and vice versa.
BOUNDARIES! Set them. Stick to them. Respect those that others set.
Did I mention learning to say NO? It’s so liberating and you know what? People will NOT love you less if you say no. I promise.

If you are one that’s living in the urgency culture that society has created, I challenge you to be mindful. Figure out where things aren’t working for you and what’s stressing you out and then make a shift. It might be the healthiest thing you do for yourself this year!

XOXO,

Kameran

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!

Last week I told you that a conversation with another coach inspired my word for 2021. We were discussing how motivated I am to really crush some goals this year and he said to me “you can be motivated but if you aren’t committed, it won’t happen”. The thing I love about coaches is that the one liners they speak out of love and gentle inspiration are sometimes the biggest gut punch you’ve ever needed.

In that moment, I realized that he was right. People often say things like “I’m just not feeling motivated lately”, “I need to find my motivation”. People are motivated on days like today when it’s January 1, goals are abundant, hope and excitement is completely tangible. By March, a lot of that has dwindled and the gyms have gone back to a respectable wait time to use a treadmill. The people that quit on themselves and their goals aren’t lacking motivation. They’re lacking committment. I know this because it’s been my goal to get to a healthy weight and size for my entire adult life. I know what to do. I’ve studied the science, majored in dietetics in college, and “tried” every diet known to man…unsuccessfully. Sure, I lost some weight but quit on myself about the time I hit my upper limit problem. I wasn’t committed. In fact, when I did the autopsy, every goal I’ve ever made and didn’t crush was because I wasn’t completely committed. Hence the quotes around tried. Is it really trying if you aren’t committed to it?

2021 is all about committment. Commitment to myself, my dreams, my goals and becoming the best version of me there is! Who’s with me? Who needs accountability to stay committed? I’ve hired a business coach and a health coach in the last 2 weeks and I couldn’t be more excited to have them kick me in the pants when I “seem to have lost my motivation”. If you’re wanting that accountability from a life or relationship coach who’s actually doing what she’s preaching, I’m your go to!

So CHEERS to 2021! Cheers to committment! Cheers to crushing some serious goals this year! Cheers to hiring a coach if you find yourself quitting on the person you see staring back at you in the mirror.

I’ve seen the meme that says 2021 will not be your year, that we’re going to ease into it because we don’t know what it brings. Bull. 2020 was the year the arrow was pulled backwards. 2021 is the year that arrow is let go and moving forward with incredible speed!

Happy New Year, friend! This WILL be your year because you are COMMITTED!

XOXO,
Kameran

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HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!