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The Power of “And”

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When you stand on the beach and look out at the ocean during high tide, especially as a storm rolls in, the waves are high. The crashing against the shore is soothing, beautiful and at the same time fierce and dangerous. 

The power of “and” is intense and often replaced with or. 

So often we get caught up in needing to be one thing, we forget that it’s ok for us to utilize the “and” in us as well. 

Society has these unrealistic expectations that we’re all supposed to adhere to and live beyond. Honestly, just thinking about it is exhausting and I call bull. Bull on the whole thing. 

We need to stop masking the truth and start normalizing reality. Living for what life realistically is. Not that you need it but here’s your permission to do just that. 

Be madly in love with your husband and still want to put super glue on the toilet seat if he leaves it up one more time. He probably has things that irritate him about you and still loves you with everything he has too.

Love your children fiercely, be supremely grateful for them and the opportunity to raise them and still want to lock yourself in the closet with nothing more than a bag of chocolate, a bottle of wine and your tears of frustration from the day, week, or season of life right now. You’re not alone.

Have wonderful intentions to clean the whole house and get none of it done because your children needed you more. This season won’t last forever.

It’s ok to have crazy wild dreams and work a job that’s mediocre as you fulfill them. You have bills to pay.

It’s completely “normal” to feel defeated in your business and passionate for your mission at the same time. Entrepreneur life isn’t for the faint of heart. 

Unpopular opinion but no less of a fact- It’s ok to disagree with people and still be kind to them. Period.

Set boundaries with people and still love them from afar. If they throw a fit about the boundary, that’s just proof it needed to be set in the first place.

It’s ok. Believing that you have to be one thing without the other is unrealistic. You can be both. The shame that’s cast upon you for that isn’t a sign there’s something wrong with you. It’s a sign there’s something wrong with societal norms. It’s a sign the person who’s shaming you for being both probably hasn’t come to grips with their own reality. 

Their projected pain and expectations are not yours to receive. 

Grace, acceptance and understanding that what you’re feeling when you feel both is completely normal- that’s yours to receive. 

Your coach, 

Kameran 

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Reasons & Remedies for Mental Overwhelm

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Let’s face it, there are so many things going on in life right now. It’s no wonder you might be feeling a bit “off”. Here are some reasons that may be causing the overwhelm and what to do about them. 

Social Media
Everyone is selling something, pictures of the new boat your friends bought or the vacation so and so just went on, “use the predictive text to finish the sentence”, seems like social media is pulling you in 100 different directions! 

Does your social media leave you feeling irritated, down, inferior, or more overwhelmed when you close the app? 

Start limiting your time and customizing your social media to what makes you feel uplifted, happy, relaxed or inspired. Someone asked me the other day if it’s bad that they delete some of their child’s family (ex’s family) off their social media. NO! It’s YOUR social media feed! You can friend/unfriend, add, follow or delete anyone you want! No explanation needed! When you look at your feed, it should give you energy, not drain you.

Lack of organization
Planning and organization keep the world moving in a uniform fashion. 

If you’ve got too many moving parts and no plan on how to make it all work, you’re going to be frazzled. 

First, get a good planner! I recommend the enneagram planner by Workspacery. Use the code: RECOGNIZINGPOTENTIAL for a 10% discount. Any of the Clever Fox planners on Amazon are fantastic as well! 
Then, I like to color coordinate each person’s events in my planner so I know at first glance who has what. As you’re filling things out, ask yourself these questions:

Does this need done?
If it doesn’t, then obviously that doesn’t need to take up space in your planner or in your brain.

Does this need to be done now? 
Meaning, what takes priority? Can you leave certain things for another day or another time when you aren’t so busy? 

Does this need to be done by me?
A person who knows their worth knows how to delegate! Kids old enough to unload the dishwasher or do the laundry? Great! Teach them some responsibility. Meal plans need made? Did you know there are 8 weeks of meal plans already made in my free facebook group? In other words, be resourceful. Don’t try to reinvent the wheel. 

Lack of Boundaries
Does NO seem to be lacking from your vocabulary? If we don’t say yes authentically, we say yes resentfully. That resentment is going to lead to far more problems than if we’d just said no in the first place. Where there is a lack of boundaries, there is usually a breakdown in relationships, in self, or in the workplace. 

Procrastination
It’s likely that you’re either procrastinating because you think the project is going to be hard, going to take a lot of time, or you’re already overwhelmed about it. Ever heard of the phrase “eat the frog”? It means that you get what you’re putting off done first (eating the frog) so you can move on to more pleasurable items on your to do list. You’re going to have to do it eventually so you might as well just get it over with, right? 

These are only a few of the reasons you may be overwhelmed. Others might include relationship problems, financial instability, mental illness, tragic life events, only to name a few. If it’s relationship problems or financial instability, I can help you with coaching or getting you in touch with someone who can help you.

If you have no idea where to start or how to fix the overwhelm, stop the spinning plates and feel in control of your life instead of your life controlling you, I would encourage you to get into the program Back to Basics. It’s now open, has a few spots left and is my most popular group program to date! Doors close Sept 30! 

XOXO,

Kameran