Hey! You need a sandwich!

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As I was working with a client a few days ago, he was talking about how he sees the patterns in his life and he sees the things he’s doing wrong but he feels he falls short in the application process. I commended him on recognizing this as it’s a commonality amongst most of the world right now. Yet, only few are able to pinpoint the patterns in the first place and even less are able to apply the discipline needed to change.

Application, it’s comes with responsibility, intention and thought. In order to apply what you’ve learned, you have to first be mindful of your thoughts, actions and self. 

Let’s say you’re sitting on the couch, watching Outer Banks on Netflix, because honestly if you’re not, what are you actually doing with your life? All of a sudden, you realize you’re hungry. Do you sit there and stay hungry? Of course not! You’ll get up and go to the kitchen to apply the steps you’ve learned in how to make yourself something to eat. Changing your physical state of getting off the couch and going to the kitchen is the first step in changing your mood, your health and your well-being. 

It’s no different in life. Reflecting on what’s working and what’s not is a key lesson I teach in all of my courses. The importance of reflection is paramount in creating the life you desire and making sure it’s in tandem with what God has called you to do. What’s not working is equivalent to being hungry. Changing your state, changing the habits or the process to what isn’t working so that it does work better for you is the same as getting off the couch. Now here’s the tricky part. People usually get lost on their way to the kitchen. 

People have the tools to change their lives. They know to drink more water, eat healthier, get more sleep, set boundaries, etc`. They know that their marriage isn’t working and that they keep having the same arguments over and over. They know that the job they get up for and reluctantly travel to every single day doesn’t fulfill them and they might even know what does. But something gets in the way of the application to change their state or as stated in the example, to make the food that will satisfy their hunger. 

This week, I challenge you to look at where you’re lacking application and to finish the process of changing your state. 

Is fear holding you back? The feeling of fear is real but is your fear a made up scenario or a probable reality? Is laziness or lack of motivation holding you back? Is it lack of discipline? Lack of resources? Are you saying yes to too many things so your plate is too full and you’re overwhelmed? Has this lead to you putting yourself last and you simply need a shift in priorities? What is the setback? How can you change that to be a setup for success?

How are you going to change your state this week? By changing your state, how will that impact the rest of your life for the better?

Need some accountability? Reply to this email and let me know what you’re going to change and how it will impact your life! I’ll send you a message later in the week to check on you. Not sure where you went wrong? Reply anyway and let’s get you booked for a pop-up coaching call so we can get you on the right track! 

I believe in you! I believe that these next 3 1/2 months can be super powerful if you’re intentional about making them so! 

Do you have enough space?

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Do you feel like your brain is on overdrive lately? Not even taking into account the world events, it feels like the mental load we’re taking on every day is more than we were built for, right? Just me?

I was reading a study done recently about that mental overload and the havoc it’s wreaking on marriages. As it turns out, what’s missing in marriage and in life is white space. 

Do you ever look at painting and feel like the colors really pop? There’s probably a lot of white space around those colors. That’s what makes them more vibrant and appealing. 

What about in your life? When was the last time you analyzed your calendar and what thoughts get the majority of your time? Is your planner packed with events written in every possible time slot? Are you married to your work and dating your family? Do you have clarity around what really matters? Does what really matters get the majority of your thoughts and time? 

When you look at your life, is it cluttered with things, people, events and tasks that bring you peace or resentment? Is there enough white space to let those who do bring you peace and joy in?

It’s easy to give advice of finding your work/life balance but difficult to do if there is no white space. If you’re not leaving room to enjoy a hobby, be in the moment or add an opportunity that comes up spontaneously that would bring you joy, finding that balance is going to be much more difficult. I would even argue that it will seem nearly impossible. This will make the ability to feel like you have room to breathe in your life much more difficult and add to the mental overwhelm.

The lack of overwhelm in a painting comes from using a lot of white space. It’s done intentionally to add emphasis on the colors that are used. Life is much the same. The emphasis on what’s important is magnified by the white space we have around it. If our calendar is full of “stuff” that is urgent (read: needs done but has nothing to do with your goals and everything to do with someone else’s goals) but not important (fulfilling to your own goals), the people and things that are important to us get what’s leftover instead of getting our best, as they deserve.

We create more white space in our lives by learning to say no without guilt or explanation. We learn to delegate. Yes, even if we are delegating to someone who won’t do it exactly like we would. Letting go of what we can’t control. Analyzing our world to see what’s working, what isn’t and what we need more and less of. 

If you need help with creating a masterpiece of your life that has more vibrant colors, more white space and the colors are less muddled together, I have two options for you. Back to Basics is open for the October 1 session. We already have people signing up and being that this is my most successful group program to date, the 9 spots that are left will go fast! The second option is pop-up coaching. This is a 1:1 coaching call that lasts 60 minutes and we cover one or two areas that you need help with in the areas of life/work balance, relationships or parenting. Email me for questions or payment plan options. Coaching@recognizingpotential.com