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Let’s face it, there are so many things going on in life right now. It’s no wonder you might be feeling a bit “off”. Here are some reasons that may be causing the overwhelm and what to do about them.

Social Media
Everyone is selling something, pictures of the new boat your friends bought or the vacation so and so just went on, “use the predictive text to finish the sentence”, seems like social media is pulling you in 100 different directions!

Does your social media leave you feeling irritated, down, inferior, or more overwhelmed when you close the app?

Start limiting your time and customizing your social media to what makes you feel uplifted, happy, relaxed or inspired. Someone asked me the other day if it’s bad that they delete some of their child’s family (ex’s family) off their social media. NO! It’s YOUR social media feed! You can friend/unfriend, add, follow or delete anyone you want! No explanation needed! When you look at your feed, it should give you energy, not drain you.

Lack of organization
Planning and organization keep the world moving in a uniform fashion.

If you’ve got too many moving parts and no plan on how to make it all work, you’re going to be frazzled.

First, get a good planner! I recommend the enneagram planner by Workspacery. Use the code: RECOGNIZINGPOTENTIAL for a 10% discount. Any of the Clever Fox planners on Amazon are fantastic as well!
Then, I like to color coordinate each person’s events in my planner so I know at first glance who has what. As you’re filling things out, ask yourself these questions:

Does this need done?
If it doesn’t, then obviously that doesn’t need to take up space in your planner or in your brain.

Does this need to be done now?
Meaning, what takes priority? Can you leave certain things for another day or another time when you aren’t so busy?

Does this need to be done by me?
A person who knows their worth knows how to delegate! Kids old enough to unload the dishwasher or do the laundry? Great! Teach them some responsibility. Meal plans need made? Did you know there are 8 weeks of meal plans already made in my free facebook group? In other words, be resourceful. Don’t try to reinvent the wheel.

Lack of Boundaries
Does NO seem to be lacking from your vocabulary? If we don’t say yes authentically, we say yes resentfully. That resentment is going to lead to far more problems than if we’d just said no in the first place. Where there is a lack of boundaries, there is usually a breakdown in relationships, in self, or in the workplace.

Procrastination
It’s likely that you’re either procrastinating because you think the project is going to be hard, going to take a lot of time, or you’re already overwhelmed about it. Ever heard of the phrase “eat the frog”? It means that you get what you’re putting off done first (eating the frog) so you can move on to more pleasurable items on your to do list. You’re going to have to do it eventually so you might as well just get it over with, right?

These are only a few of the reasons you may be overwhelmed. Others might include relationship problems, financial instability, mental illness, tragic life events, only to name a few. If it’s relationship problems or financial instability, I can help you with coaching or getting you in touch with someone who can help you.

If you have no idea where to start or how to fix the overwhelm, stop the spinning plates and feel in control of your life instead of your life controlling you, I would encourage you to get into the program Back to Basics. It’s now open, has a few spots left and is my most popular group program to date! Doors close Sept 30!

XOXO,

Kameran

Do you feel like your brain is on overdrive lately? Not even taking into account the world events, it feels like the mental load we’re taking on every day is more than we were built for, right? Just me?

I was reading a study done recently about that mental overload and the havoc it’s wreaking on marriages. As it turns out, what’s missing in marriage and in life is white space.

Do you ever look at painting and feel like the colors really pop? There’s probably a lot of white space around those colors. That’s what makes them more vibrant and appealing.

What about in your life? When was the last time you analyzed your calendar and what thoughts get the majority of your time? Is your planner packed with events written in every possible time slot? Are you married to your work and dating your family? Do you have clarity around what really matters? Does what really matters get the majority of your thoughts and time?

When you look at your life, is it cluttered with things, people, events and tasks that bring you peace or resentment? Is there enough white space to let those who do bring you peace and joy in?

It’s easy to give advice of finding your work/life balance but difficult to do if there is no white space. If you’re not leaving room to enjoy a hobby, be in the moment or add an opportunity that comes up spontaneously that would bring you joy, finding that balance is going to be much more difficult. I would even argue that it will seem nearly impossible. This will make the ability to feel like you have room to breathe in your life much more difficult and add to the mental overwhelm.

The lack of overwhelm in a painting comes from using a lot of white space. It’s done intentionally to add emphasis on the colors that are used. Life is much the same. The emphasis on what’s important is magnified by the white space we have around it. If our calendar is full of “stuff” that is urgent (read: needs done but has nothing to do with your goals and everything to do with someone else’s goals) but not important (fulfilling to your own goals), the people and things that are important to us get what’s leftover instead of getting our best, as they deserve.

We create more white space in our lives by learning to say no without guilt or explanation. We learn to delegate. Yes, even if we are delegating to someone who won’t do it exactly like we would. Letting go of what we can’t control. Analyzing our world to see what’s working, what isn’t and what we need more and less of.

If you need help with creating a masterpiece of your life that has more vibrant colors, more white space and the colors are less muddled together, I have two options for you. Back to Basics is open for the October 1 session. We already have people signing up and being that this is my most successful group program to date, the 9 spots that are left will go fast! The second option is pop-up coaching. This is a 1:1 coaching call that lasts 60 minutes and we cover one or two areas that you need help with in the areas of life/work balance, relationships or parenting. Email me for questions or payment plan options. Coaching@recognizingpotential.com

XOXO,

Kameran

Reasons & Remedies for Mental Overwhelm

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